Quantum Huna by Eftink Sarah & Canipe Yates

Author:Eftink, Sarah & Canipe, Yates [Eftink, Sarah]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Unknown
Published: 2013-01-10T16:00:00+00:00

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Chapter Seven

Religion versus Ritual

What Keeps People From Listening?

EXTERNAL DISTRACTIONS -- Glaring lights, nearby activity, and noise from radios, ringing telephones, etc. can all interfere with concentration.

IMPATIENCE -- If you are eager to offer your own views on the topic -- or if the topic bores you -- you are less likely to listen.

PREOCCUPATION -- Thinking about your problems or the day's activities keeps you from listening. So does trying to solve the speaker's problems! First, hear the speaker out.

YOUR PHYSICAL STATE -- When you are tired or uncomfortable, it is may be hard to concentrate. When you are too comfortable, it is tempting to daydream.

SCRIPT WRITING -- Planning a response while someone is talking can cost you important information.

PREJUDICE -- You may decide not to listen because of the speaker's: sex, race, culture, appearance, voice or accent, emotions, delivery (awkward, polished, etc), or you may be too impressed by these factors to notice when there is little meaning behind the words.

FALSE ASSUMPTIONS -- You will not listen effectively if you assume: You already know what the speaker will say or if the topic is "over your head." You and the speaker may not use words the same way. (I need this tomorrow" may mean "by the end of the day" for you and "first thing in the morning " for the speaker.

THE SPEED OF THOUGHT -- Most people speak about 200 words a minute. The mind, however, processes words at twice that speed! During its "spare time" , the mind can easily wander.

SO HOW TO BE AN EFFECTIVE LISTENER

Ask yourself: What does this person mean? What does this person want? How does this person know this? Has anything been left out? What points or ideas do these facts suggest? What can I learn from this? Schedule important meetings or conversations for times when you are least likely to be tired, interrupted or distracted. Wait Your Turn. Don't Interrupt to: correct the speaker, finish the speaker's sentence, or change the subject. Do interrupt politely and briefly, to ask a question if something is not clear. Set the stage when possible by placing chairs so the sun won't glare into anyone's eyes, sitting near the speaker and not behind a desk. You can close doors to reduce noise and ask others to take phone calls for you. Be patient and form opinions or make decisions AFTER the speaker is done, thus giving the speaker a chance to elaborate or correct a mistake by waiting a moment before speaking.

You can show interest in the speaker by making frequent eye contact, sitting up straight or leaning forward slightly while offering neutral comments ("go on," "I see," or "I understand," thus not agreeing or disagreeing. If you take notes then ask permission and remember your writing comes second. You should look up frequently and record only main points, new facts and ideas.

When you acknowledge the presence of emotions without judgment, you accept the speaker as a valued human being, feelings and all. Recognizing emotions assists

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